Spiritual Awakening – The Problem

People who talked about “spirituality” always made me roll my eyes. Or they used to.  I’m generally a pretty practical person.  That might surprise you if you knew me personally, because the way I live seems very impractical; but this is because what’s important to me is different from what’s important to most people.

I’m a non-medical hypnotist; I do hypnotherapy. There are a couple of hypnotherapeutic processes, but the primary one and the industry standard is regression therapy.  The theory is that people have unresolved emotions (about how our parents treated us, or from a broken heart, or so on), and when we run into a situation similar to the one that hurt us, we have emotional responses about our history.

That’s a problem, because it prevents us from responding appropriately to what is really going on.  The standard therapeutic model has tools for dealing with anger, guilt, and fear.  And this works pretty well.

You deal with other emotions with these same tools.  So much of the practical skill of being a hypnotist is selling someone on the idea that the feeling of shame they have can be treated as guilt, which they might accept easily, or which might take more work.

I got interested in the question of hate.  It seems you can treat hate as anger, but really you can’t.  People don’t like being angry.  — There are rageaholics, who do, but really what’s going on there is that they enjoy doling out punishment.  But true, deep anger, where someone in their family has hurt them and they don’t know what to do about it — this is not pleasurable.

Hatred is pleasurable, though.  People enjoy hating.  And so in therapy you don’t have the leverage you have when you deal with anger.  The more I asked myself how to deal with hatefulness, the more important a question it seemed to me; to the point where I couldn’t imagine a more important one.

The most obvious answer was that the antidote to hatefulness is what we call brotherly love.  And the expert on brotherly love is, of course, Jesus Christ.

In this way, although I was an atheist and had a very secular turn of mind, I began reading the gospels, looking for instruction.

Published on September 21, 2010 at 8:31 am  Leave a Comment  

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